It is a Christian faith-based book. If you've ever been in a relationship where you were used, abused, or abandoned, then Safe People is for you. The Bible is full of scriptures instructing us to stay away from, leave, shun, and not associate with evil people. Safe People will help you to recognize 20 traits of relationally untrustworthy people. As president of Cloud-Townsend Resources, Dr.
A must read for all who have read Boundaries. Abstract: Have You Ever Given Your Best and Gotten the Worst in Return?. You can put an end to the datelessness. Put This Book on the Top of Your To-Be Read Pile I strongly recommend the book by Dr. But I gave it up with this book. He speaks on relationships—marriage, parenting, dating, personal growth, and spirituality. Yet the issues in our lives and relationships that we wish would change often stay the same, even with our best efforts at spiritual growth.
Why do we choose the wrong people to get involved with? They identify the nurturing people we all need in our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. It's a very comprehensive study of what makes people dangerous to others, what makes us pick the wrong people, how to identify and pick the right people and when the relationships are worth repairing vs. And what's more, we either repeat the same mistakes of judgment over and over, or else simply give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again. It makes you look at yourself more than anything to make sure you fix the problem within first. You can stop being a victim and begin enjoying the kinds of healthy, reciprocal relationships everyone wants and needs. I think the authors are too black and white about people being either safe or unsafe.
And if so, where does one begin? Every healthy relationship is founded in mutual honesty and love. I have some experience in trusting the wrong persons, and now wanted to learn how to find safe people. It will help you make wise choices in relationships from friendships to romance. Wie nimmt man effizient ab? The quality of your relationship with people is an indicator of your spiritual growth. In his leadership consulting practice, Dr. If you are too afraid to tell the truth to others, you will be taken advantage of, manipulated, and ultimately hurt. This is like a reference book that you will need to go back to and continue to study.
My deepest sympathies… The links provided are secular to help those like yourself who endured similar abuse. This one was no exception, and I loved some of the things it broke down about relationships and how to navigate and evaluate your own choices in them. Clearly, it made an impact and like eating an elephant, I had to absorb it piece by piece. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. Reading this book, you will inevitably discover that you yourself has traits of unsafe person, and almost everyone you knew, has traits of unsafe people. What if it's someone in your care, like a child or person with a disability? His most recent books are and. Cloud unpacks these universal, eternal principles, he reveals that true happiness is not about circumstances, physical health, financial success, or even about the people in our lives.
I had high expectations my parents have, in the past, liked Cloud and Townsend and wanted to like it, but I couldn't. He is in bondage to a demand that says, 'If you do it right, you'll be loved. Two failed marriages and in a dying third, I now have substantial context and Scriptures to try to save my marriage with better tools and understanding. The first time I read it, I found the first half of the book to be of value, but the second half seemed confusing, weak, and difficult to understand. I tried to excuse the ingnoant inclusion of homosexuality with alcoholism and drug dependency but it really had a very negative effect. I see a lot of strength in your words.
It literally has changed my life. I picked this book up because I was serving a church where there seemed to be a mistrust of pastors from the time I arrived. They had reason not to trust and I wanted to rebuild that trust so I bought a book on safe people to make sure I was one of them. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer solid guidance for making safe choices in relationships, from family to friendship, romance and work. And you have friends here, so drop by whenever you need to. And what's more, we either repeat the same mistakes of judgment over and over, or else simply give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again.
As a pastor I want people to feel safe when they talk with me and at times share intimate details of their lives with me. You'll discover why good people can get tangled in bad relationships. I had been wanting to read this book already for a long time. The understanding provided by this book lifted the heavy load I was carrying. I wo I was a bit disappointed with this book. A link back to this site is our only requirement. But for the rest of us, you can benefit from hearing things named and called out so that you can overcome them, be kind to yourself, be forgiving, and get through life with less damage to yourself and your family.
Part Two describes if and how one may actually attract unsafe people or fall into unsafe relationships. God doesn't want to punish you. Why do we choose the wrong people to get involved with? But the advice for how to know when you need to get out of a destructive relationship? In this companion to Safe People, Drs. All of these are necessary for growth. After all, Jesus hung out with some unsafe people, including one who betrayed him. I think it assumes you are having a horrible life. It takes a few pages to help us understand when to continue investing in a relationship and when we should walk away and be willing to give it up.
They help identify the healthy and growing people we all need in our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. That said, non-Christians need not be put off by this angle, for the real-world advice is solid and comes from a psychologically sound place. In reading this site, you acknowledge that nothing you might read here qualifies as or substitutes for professional advice. Henry Cloud is an acclaimed leadership expert, psychologist, and New York Times best-selling author. So now I was finally listening to the audiobook version of this. I also found that they suspected that at least one pastor had used funds inappropriately as well. Is it possible to change? Cloud has written or co-written twenty-five books, including the two million-seller.